Hi, I’m Kelsey. I’m an ever-changing soul who thrives on stability. I am a reflection of my mother’s beauty and strength, my brother’s wit and my Mimi’s wisdom. I get to be called Aunt by Parker James and Tatum Anne.
I’ve been labeled a lot of things in my 22 years. Some labels I’ve loved; Daughter, Sister, Aunt, Best Friend. Others I have hated: Fatherless, Female, Minority. Without saying more I’m sure you’ve concocted some idea of the person I am. That’s what we do, we place people into categories. We label instead of understand. More times than not, underneath that label is a complicated and complex deviation from the cultural norm.
I work at Chipotle (And yes, the quesarrito is a real thing). For those living in locations of desert lands (without Chipotle) here’s an overview. There are four meats and four salsas the customer can choose from (stay with me, I promise this has a point) That’s the heart of our menu. That’s it. I love it when people stick to ordering just one of those four meats and one of those four salsas. That’s they way Chipotle was set up to work. But that rarely happens. People want double this, triple this, a side of honey and freshly cut jalapeños, all the time. When I first started working there my initial response to all these “extra” requests was, “No, we can’t do that.” We could. I just hated that the person insisted on deviating from the norm. We meet numerous requests from customers for things that deviate from Chipotle’s normal menu items; and the customer rarely pays extra money for these requests. It’s frustrating and beautiful at the same time. Let me explain.
What if our culture functioned like this? What if instead of labels to give those who deviate from cultural norms, what if we charged them the same price as those who stick to the norm?
I think the church has been acting like a new Chipotle employee for a number of years now. When we see that someone is deviating from the norm of Christian culture, our initial and harsh response is, “No, we can’t do that.” But what if we can? What if deviations from cultural norms are okay?
Sometimes I wonder if God is telling us to defend His sovereign Word less and love all His beloved children more.